My Girlfriend Has Been Molested. I Need Serious Help.?
Question by Chad: My girlfriend has been molested. I need serious help.?
ok, i’ve been talking with this girl for a long time. We have this weird connection that we can’t explain. We have told each other our deepest and darkest secrets that nobody else in this world knows. I’ll give you a bit of background.
We have been friends since August. But only recently have we started to date. She is a foster child, her mom has a terrible crack addiction and her dad died of alcohol poisoning back in 2003. We are both 16 years old and last night we were talking and she seems different. I asked her “whats the matter?” She told me “i’m too embarrassed to talk about it.” I kept gently trying to get her to talk about it, and she told me “you have to promise not to tell anyone.” I did promise that I wouldn’t tell anybody.
She told me that her last foster parents have molested her almost everyday for the past 2 years. I am still so angry that some pervert would do that to my girlfriend! She doesn’t want me to tell anybody but i feel that I must tell the police. That pervert needs to go to jail and rot. What do I do?
Also, whenever I tell her how beautiful she is, she always says that she thinks she is ugly. She is the most beautiful person i’ve ever seen. But she thinks she is ugly. Could that be an emotional side effect of her being molested?
One more question, how can I help her emotionally right now? I’ve never been put in this situation before and i just don’t know how to act. help!
Thanks for reading this long question and please help me.
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File a police report.
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I would get revenge and at the same time put those perverts out of commission. There is another way to get them in jail without exposing the truth.
For example, you can get really good at gambling and challenge those sick excuses for human beings to a duel. Use the dirtiest, cleverest tricks to win every time and encourage them to continue. Eventually they’ll get so annoyed that they push in their entire house and life savings and you can take that all away from them go buy a house and get married with your girlfriend.
The perverts will get arrested for not having enough money to pay their bills and go to jail.
Going to the police is the first step, because they can remove her from the foster home even for suspicion of abuse. This is good because she will not be around those people anymore. The police will also investigate and probably convict them (provided she talks) and put the in jail and make sure they can never hurt another child again. This way, you would not only be helping your girlfriend, but also the potential future victims of these people.
No need to comment on contacting the police since the above posts suffice.
As for this being a cause for her feeling ugly, it is very likely. Victims of molestation, as well as rape, will suffer from lowered self-esteem, which can lead to depression, and can also produce anxiety about future relationships.
I’m sure she is a beautiful girl and all you need to do is keep on showing her. You can do this by explaining to her why she is beautiful. EX: You are gorgeous because I love your eyes or you have very pretty lips etc.
She will fight you and say that you are wrong, but over time, he should begin to agree with you
You can currently help her by being there. Be there to listen to whatever she has to say, but never push her to the point where is uncomfortable, and never tell a sole. Do not betray her trust, that would be incredibly detrimental to her emotional well being. Listen to her, get close to her, and comfort her. If it is really bad, maybe recommend seeing a psychologist or a therapist to help you out.
Also, if you contact the police, she will have to be on board with the decisions since it will ultimately be up to her to verify and agree to press charges. I would talk to her about it, but not right away.Wait a few weeks and begin by saying “I have been thinking about what you told me. We should inform the police so that they cannot hurt other children ever again”….people that do this to children unfortunately do not stop at one.
I hope that heps
I’m so sorry she is going through that. I know that telling the police is the right thing to do, but if she is unwilling to cooperate it won’t do any good right now. Show her that she has your full support and encourage her to report this when she feels ready.
Yes, negative self image is a major indicator of sexual abuse.
Below is a great article on how to support a survivor of sexual abuse. I hope this helps.